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Monday, February 18, 2019

The Functional Point


Here was our laundry room before we started the remodel, back during the New Years holiday.  We are so close on our laundry room remodel.  So close that it's fully functional and we can't seem to get ourselves to work on it.  I'm hoping next week we can officially post a reveal.

In other news:  Anyone else's mood totally shot from all this "winter weather"?  I just can't seem to function as a normal person anymore.  I recently read this interesting article from Goop about seasonal affective disorder.  I definitely think I have most of these symptoms and in the future would really like to look into finding things to look forward to in the winter.  I just think for now, the winter means being cooped up with all the kids.  If we can get passed the "kids are ALWAYS sick" phase of life, I think making sure we have a trip planned in the winter could be a great thing to look forward to.  I keep trying and trying to get everyone to want a trip instead of presents for the holidays.  Maybe this next year will finally be the year it happens.

These last couple of weeks I had lots on my plate for school volunteering.  I wound up signing up for more than I had expected too.  I don't mind helping out at school at all.  But I definitely feel stress when things keep piling up.

I've read articles that a part-time job for a mom can be the best option.  In the past I've pushed myself to work full time (and that was way back when we just had one kid) and with all of Bella's special conditions, it was just too much.  So I went to part-time.  I've tried to stay home each time I had another baby, but I would only make it a couple of months and would actually need the sanity break from my kids, and working was a good solution.  I had to stay part time because there is no easy answer when it comes to care for Bella.  So I am a slave to the school and Bella's schedule.  I've been lucky that my career has allowed me to work part time.  And as working remote gets more advanced, I can even work from home some days.

For me, there are two downsides to working part-time.  The first thing is that you don't ever really feel part of a community.  You are not a full time -slave to the job, employee.  You can't take the big projects, or the promotions.  You have to turn down the social experiences.  You also are not a full time stay at home mom, that can schedule playdates or mom dates.  That doesn't have to worry about working.  You have your feet in both worlds, so you try your best to be part of both worlds.

Secondly you have even more things on your to do list that you have to decide the priority on.  I really struggle with this.  What should I spend my hours on today.  I am paying for daycare so every hour is costly.  To make the most money I should be working.  I also need to run errands and it's much easier during the daytime and without additional children (not to mention impossible if Bella is around).  The house is a mess and should be cleaned.  I should also throw in a couple loads of laundry.  Oh and everyone has been complaining about nothing to eat, so I should really make a home cooked meal today.  Oh I also need to pay bills, maybe I can sneak that in too.  Hey, I also promised to work on myself and fit in yoga everyday.  A shower would be nice too.

The list goes on and on.  And to be honest lately, it seems like prioritizing a to-do list is pointless anyways, as the kids are usually home because of holidays, snow days, or someone is sick.  It's been a never-ending winter.

Friday, February 8, 2019

Conscientious Closet Purging

I have a fairly large closet and I have it packed to its seams.  In fact I am also using part of Jesse's closet and the guest bedroom closet.  Not too mention a few bins for off-season, or just can't part with clothes.  I know I have a problem.  In fact fast-fashion is my problem.  I am always wanting something new to wear, and justifying that if I don't spend a lot of money on it, it makes it okay.  It's not surprising either that fashion trends are continuously changing, so that if you want to stay on top of it, you constantly need to be buying new things.
I watched a documentary a year ago that really made me think about what we are doing.  It was called The True Cost, if you clink the link you can watch a preview of the documentary.  It is also currently available on Netflix.  If you enjoy buying clothes or just like fashion in general, I urge you to watch it.

It definitely made me think about how I don't need to constantly be buying clothes.  In fact this year I have made a promise to myself that I won't be buying any clothing for myself and trying to really think about the clothing I purchase for my children.

The documentary has also been stuck in my head as I think about what I want to get rid of in my closet.  It claims that most of our donated clothes get shipped to other countries and then what they don't want ends up in landfills.  When I think back to my trips to our local thrift stores looking for costumes, it makes sense that most of the donated clothing looks like it's from the 80's or 90's.  In other words, they seem to have plenty of stock that is extremely outdated.

So while purging my closet would most likely make me feel better in the short term, if I was going to get rid of clothing I would really like it to go to an organization that could use them.  While I don't have the perfect answer for this, we have donated in the past to women's shelters and are currently looking at taking our donations to a Kansas City homeless shelter.  I can tell you that in volunteering at a thrift store a few years ago, we would keep the best stuff to put out on the shelves and send the crappy stuff to the homeless shelters.  I think it would be nice to take the nice stuff to the homeless shelters, but I have no idea if they need it either.

I haven't been following the true Marie Kondo method of dumping all my clothes on the bed and then seeing what sparks joy.  Instead I have been slowly going through all the places I have clothes and being conscientious about what I keep or don't.  So I have begun amassing a pile of purged clothing that is living on the guest room bed.  I have started three piles.
1.  Pile to donate
2.  Pile to tailor
3.  Pile to think about
So let's look at a piece I went ahead and tailored today.  It all came from an inspiration photo I had saved awhile ago.
As I was trying on older pieces of clothing today, I came across this old black sweater.  It's definitely more than 10 years old when the style was more fitted.  Also as a side note - today is a snow/ice day and my kids are home.  Which means I haven't done any hair or makeup today.  Also I may have hired my 7 year old son to give me an honest opinion about whether I should keep things or get rid of them :-)

I figured this sweater would be a great piece to turn into the inspiration piece.  I attacked it with a pair of scissors cutting the side seams apart and then I took an old button down shirt of my husbands that was too small for him, and hacked off the top part.  It literally took me less than 5 minutes to sew the two shirts together....and here is the after.


Now if the kids could actually go to school, this would be the perfect outfit to wear for casual Fridays in the office.